Anger

Hello everyone, today I'm sharing my views on ANGER. 

 Well, it is both Good and bad, we're all already familiar with some of it's adverse effects, but still let's have a look. 

 

Why it's Bad : firstly it can deal serious damage to your social image, and your relations. Secondly it affects your brain, your body equally badly, some might feel pain, anxiety, restlessness and tiredness, not to forget sorrow. We all know these things adversely affect our immune system, metabolism and the way we think. As one's anger gets out of control he/she may inflict serious physical damage, in worst cases causing deaths. 

These are only few, if you search a bit more on Google, I hope you'll find many more effects of anger. 

Why it's Good : Well sometimes, when you're being bullied or people are teasing you for no valid reason, Anger might come in handy, Also when everyone is pressurizing you, it could help you express yourself freely. In some people, I've observed greater control, energy and charm, when they get angry. but mind you these are the cases when you can control your anger. But nonetheless it lets out your frustration and your emotions. 

I guess that's enough info about anger, let's move on to my experience with it, when i was a kid, i never expressed anger, until one day when people around me were beating and abusing me, that i hit one of them with my fist right below the cheek on the jaw. Well, they stopped beating me up. but after this incident, i thought it best to let out my anger on inanimate things, because if I had just a bit below that((ie. his neck)) I might have killed him. So off I went punching walls slamming doors and all. Until I met the best person I've ever known, My best friend She made me realise that I shouldn't hurt myself. So, I stopped punching walls, instead grabbed a ball and started throwing it furiously at walls, so they'd bounce back and I'd have to catch them, which would make me realise how angry i was, it was a good way to let out any anger frustration or anxiety I had. But today after hurting so much people on a mental level that some of them left me forever, I realise that it was a big mistake. 

Why ? Well, because it never made me realise the mistakes I made, it never let me learn. Sure it's good to let the anger out, to get that negative energy out. But it is way more important to understand our mistakes, to think why we went mad, and why people were sad. And as we all know a sorry doesn't fix anything, in some cases it also worsens the situation. But If We only stop for a moment and look at ourselves, and think "what went wrong? what did i do wrong ? why do I feel this way? if it is someone else's fault, would it be really healthy to be angry ?" 

Conclusion : please think about what you did wrong ,what others did wrong, have the strength to forgive them and yourself, and Think about the positive side, but never forget the dark side. 

As Lord Buddha taught " Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" And "you will not be punished for you anger, You will be punished by your Anger". 

But hey these are my own thoughts, I'm not a professional, so if you have issues related to anger or rage, It's advisable to consult someone who has experience, someone professional.

Happy studying to those who have exams, and do your best!